So, in the past I never really had friends growing up. Even in the churches I attended with my
parents. I knew people, but it never
turned into friendship. A while later at
another church I was hurt and my trust was destroyed. It took a while for me to move past that and
I still do have trust issues, but with God’s help I’m healing from that.
I understand how hopeless it can feel. That sense of failure at meeting someone new
and thinking it was going to go well and the whole thing falls flat on its
face. It’s easy to lose hope. But you know what I learned? The best thing to do is to not try and force it. It has to happen naturally. It takes practice. I think that’s the biggest thing. You need to practice just talking to people first. Opening up over time. My problem was I tried to jump into the deep end without first learning how to swim. You have to start out slow. Master the little things first before taking on the complexity of friendships. Get used to small talk first and greeting new people. It isn’t a fast process and will take a lot of time, but as you begin to see improvements you will FEEL that improvement in yourself. A new confidence that slowly blossoms. A seed that gradually grows into a plant and makes its way through the dirt to reach the sun of a new hope and life joined in fellowship with others that eventually becomes natural.
It is never hopeless, but it does take work.
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